I didn't want anyone else to look after Mum - until I realised what she wanted | Simon Hattenstone

My sister and I thought we knew best for our 93-year-old mother but we neglected something crucial: her independence There was always one thing I was sure of - I'd not let Mum go into a care home or be looked after by a stranger. Marje has always been a brilliant mother, forever loyal when others wrote me off. So come the day when she tired of living by herself in Salford, or couldn't cope, I'd be there for her. I assumed she would come to live with me - or my sister Sharon - in London. She coul...